By Chidinma Nkwonta
You should totally blame Obinna Odenigbo for this. After declining his offer to write a response to his article, “5 things Nigerian Men Find Unattractive In Women”, he called me a ‘chicken’. WHAT???
I immediately set out to work.
I had a lot of things written down, but I had to limit myself to just five. Hopefully, I speak for most of y’all ladies 
Here we go:
1. Stingy Men:
Since men already have this ridiculous notion that most Nigerian ladies love money way too much; what better way than to start with this? Hehehe!
Alright, jokes apart. Women believe that if you aren’t spending on them someone else is helping herself from your pocket. No lady anywhere in the world would want a tight-fisted man. Even if she has all the money in the world or she hasn’t said ‘Yes’ to dating you; she would still like to see you spend your money.
What might likely be going through her head is this: ‘If he can’t spend his money on me now, how am i sure he will when I finally agree?’
Hey, I’m not disputing the fact that some women are money conscious. However, you should be ready to spend on the girl you like/love. It doesn’t necessarily have to be something big (well, unless you can afford it), just get her something she would really appreciate.
2. Poor Personal Hygiene:
The lack of personal hygiene from anyone (male/female) is a huge turn off. It’s sad to see that some men don’t care when it comes to their hygiene. Men tend to sweat easily, as they are more involved in physical activities.
Is it too much to ask that they shower immediately after such activities? C’mon guys; primary school Health Education tells you that this will eventually cause body odour- which you try to cover up with one designer cologne or the other.
Also, I’m irked when I see guys that love to keep hairs on their underarms and still go about spotting a sleeveless jersey!
In some cases, you will find out that the hairs have become a collector of sorts- that makes you wonder when the dude in question last took a shower. Humph!
3. Bad Dress Sense
I’m really sad when I see a guy in mismatched clothes. Most guys don’t bother about what they wear to different occasions or how they combine colours. They feel it’s a ‘woman thing’ to be conscious of ones’ dressing. So you can easily find a guy spotting a striped shirt and striped tie or a brown belt and white shoes. I’ll be so ashamed if I were such a person’s date.
4. Bug-a-boo
I’m definitely sure that the hit track ‘Bug a Boo’ by defunct R&B girl group, Destiny’s Child readily comes to mind. The term is explained in the lyrics of the song:
“You make me wanna throw my pager out the window
Tell MCI to cut the phone pole.
Break my lease so I can move,
‘Cause you a bug a boo, a bug a boo.
I wanna put your number on the call block,
Have AOL make my e-mails stop.
‘Cause you a bug a boo
You’re bugging what,
You’re bugging who
You’re bugging me and don’t you see it ain’t cool”
I call these kind of men pests! No lady wants a guy that’s very bothersome. If you notice that she hardly answers your calls, responds to your messages, pings or e-mails & she takes the closest exit once you enter the room; dude, you gotta check yourself. You just might as well be a bug-a-boo!!!
5. LIARS!
Lying is one skill all men have (I’m yet to be proved otherwise). Men would lie just about anything, significant or trivial. They don’t even care if they have been caught red-handed. One thing that baffles me is how they most times, lie without batting an eyelid. Some men even believe the notion that ‘women like to be lied to’. I wonder who instigated that. Sorry guys. We are definitely not Rihanna, so we can’t love the way you lie.
Truth is; there exist many women who still love their men this way. This article was not written with the intent to hate. However, if you see yourself in any of these lists, it’s just a friendly reminder to do better.
Before you send in your comments, i know some ladies might say that I missed out a thing or two points that should have been listed. However, it should be noted that this write-up is about things that can be controlled.
Hope you had a fabulous read!
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nice h=job Chidimma Nkwonta
Thanks to u though.
My boyfriend is 1.stingy, 2. not neat always, 3. dresses badly 4. over-protective 5. a Liar. The problem is, I still can’t leave him, as much as many other guys are “very interested” in me.
Things u mentioned,can be corected. Why not try helping him out,since u love him and want to stay with him?
if you don’t leave him,it will shock you when he will leave you and if you don’t like those things about him now,why do you think you can put up with them later?
Then he wat you want! STOP COMPLAINING. Come to tink of it you didnt tell us wats making you stick wit him. Just tinking………..
Nice one guys. I just know,and i still believe that there are exceptions. There are guys who are honourable and know how to treat their women well.
Nice one, gurrl. D armpit hair thing…am so happy u mentioned dat one, they come in different shades and lenghts. At a point my thoughts were ‘is leavin armpit hair now fashionable or is it supposed 2 show masculinity?’
haha…
‘taesia i have to say this in defence of the sons of Adam. Sometimes being stingy is needed to avoid being called a “mugu”. How preposterous it is for the most attention craving gender to call the most attention stingy gender “bug a-boo”. Ouch! Did i hit a nerve? Ladies love attention like vampires love blood and i long for that girlfriend that won’t mind me calling only once a week. Far be it from me to defend liars but “everybody lies” and that’s not just a hackneyed Hugh Laurie line. The guy that tells the whole truth does not win the girl. For being a skunk and having a captain Jack Sparrow dress sense, sorry dudes that is outragiously unforgivable. “muchisimo gracias”.
A girl likes you and you like her too, you won’t b taken as a mugu! So dat reason for being stingy is baseless please
@wanizy, notice i said “sometimes”
being stingy is not good in anyway.you should give but not give foolishly and if you are taken for granted you stop and simply means the girl doesn’t deserve it. as for a girlfriend you call once a week,now that’s absurd!lol! that’s not a relationship,you can do that with your guy friends too.you’re simply not ready to care enough.
Ok I hav to comment on the armpit hair thing…. Some people are allergic to shaving stricks nd clippers but the only trick is to use Scissors to cut it short. The problem is not leaving hairs on ur armpit its keeping the area clean
I think stinginess is relative cos some mamis don’t appreciate even when you spend your last dime on them. The ‘stingy’ complaint comes when they want to brag to their friends about what their boyfriends have done for them but the dude can’t live up to that expectation. The poor guy is then labeled ‘stingy’
nice job, chidinma N. corrections noted, will improved on where necessary. But lying is inevitable.
My boo can bhe over possessive but he’s d sweetest of all.but any guy dat is stingy,not well dressed etc is a turn off for me
woaaa…
Good job here!……..and gosh d *braggarts* especially on 1st dates?….huge turn-off!
Nice job!
very good job! you covered all the bases
especially the hygiene man!
People should know that, there’s a difference between character and alttutide, if is character, stay and work it out with them bt if its alttutide RUN FOR DEAR LIFE. And when get to a far distance you can then pray for that soul. (: )